When you
talk to someone observe your thoughts. One positive remark sets you blushing
and happy and is sure to put you on top of Universe at least for the next ten minutes
or may be for the next twenty-four hours. But, the charisma is for a very short
period. Similarly one negative remark
and it makes our world topsy-turvy. Our mind dwells on negative feedback for a
longer time, some continue to brood over it for three days, for weeks, for
year, and even a life time. That means,
our mind has a tendency to forget the positive situation and dwell on the
negativity. If we observe our daily routine from the time we wake up until we
retire to bed, there are over hundred opportunities during the day for us to
feel blessed, grateful, and happy. But, one negative incident or situation has
more power to make our life seem miserable.
Positive
people, we meet them every day and every minute of our lives, who give us
beautiful memories to retire to bed with. But, have you observed who keeps you
awake during night, it is those negative people and negative situations. They
leave us tossing and turning on our bed late nights. What do we love to hold on to? We love to
hold on to negativity, we love to hold on to grudges, we love to hold on to
failures, we love to hold on to fear, we love to hold on to our limiting
beliefs. And then, we enjoy blame games.
But, take a moment and think about it – how does it serve us? Someone has done
some wrong, some mistake, some error, some foolishness, some cruelty, some
cheating – that was a past. It is not the present; the event has occurred and
is over. It caused you the amount of pain and turmoil, yes there is no harm in
feeling the pain in showing how hurt or dejected you are. However, is it really
worth carrying it along with you every night to your bed, and spoiling your
peace of mind, your health, and your family life? The person, who has done wrong is sleeping
peacefully at his home, while you are undergoing anxiety and depression
thinking about it. Who gave this power to the negative person or the situation
to hijack your sleep and health?
What good has your resentment, your grudge or
holding on to disappointment; rejection, grief and pain served you in life? It
isn’t easy to let go, especially when someone has hurt you or cheated on you,
but holding on to it will not make you a better person either. You want those
negative people and situations to disappear from your life, well you have to
learn to let go. When we let go it is
liberating, it is peaceful, and we open ourselves to new faces, new experiences
and new relationships. It is hard to let go but that is where our growth
happens. We have a choice in life what
to hold on to, and what we need to let go. Letting go is not a sign of
weakness, or failure. When you let go
your fear to cross the comfort zone, you are being courageous and opening
yourself to new opportunities. When you let go those people who have done wrong
against you, you are granting yourself peace, and good health, you refuse to
give power to those negative people.
It is
perfectly okay to reject evil, but do not feed power to it. Do you remember the
story of the Snake & Rope, we heard as small kids? It talks of a man
walking home one evening, through the bushes. In the half-light he sees on the
path a snake apparently crossing in front of him. He starts and jerks himself
away, heart beating fast, wide-eyed and alert. Filled with fear, he is frozen
on the street; the night seemed long and terrible, with all scary thoughts and
imaginations. He even saw himself being bitten by the snake and his dead body
floating around in the streets. He also saw his body being torn to pieces in the
jungle by wild animals. He died a 100
death that night. It was a terrible night. But, as it dawned and the sun
rays pierced through the bushes, he
opened his eyes and was shocked to know what scared him to death entire night
was just a piece of rope. Relieved and laughing to himself at his foolishness
he goes to step over it and glancing down suddenly realizes the rope is a
string of jewels. He gasps in awe.
As a kid
every time I heard this story, it would make me wonder how foolish this man was
to have mistaken a piece of rope to be a snake. But, then today when I look
back, I find myself smiling at those situations and people that have terrified
me as well, and caused such sleepless nights. They came for a purpose and were gone, but I
prisoned them in my thoughts in my mind. However, the moment I let them go I
restored my ability to see clearly. Evil
dissolves when we let the light of compassion, love and knowledge flow in.
