The Power of Letting Go

 

When you talk to someone observe your thoughts. One positive remark sets you blushing and happy and is sure to put you on top of Universe at least for the next ten minutes or may be for the next twenty-four hours. But, the charisma is for a very short period.  Similarly one negative remark and it makes our world topsy-turvy. Our mind dwells on negative feedback for a longer time, some continue to brood over it for three days, for weeks, for year, and even a life time.  That means, our mind has a tendency to forget the positive situation and dwell on the negativity. If we observe our daily routine from the time we wake up until we retire to bed, there are over hundred opportunities during the day for us to feel blessed, grateful, and happy. But, one negative incident or situation has more power to make our life seem miserable.

Positive people, we meet them every day and every minute of our lives, who give us beautiful memories to retire to bed with. But, have you observed who keeps you awake during night, it is those negative people and negative situations. They leave us tossing and turning on our bed late nights.  What do we love to hold on to? We love to hold on to negativity, we love to hold on to grudges, we love to hold on to failures, we love to hold on to fear, we love to hold on to our limiting beliefs.  And then, we enjoy blame games. But, take a moment and think about it – how does it serve us? Someone has done some wrong, some mistake, some error, some foolishness, some cruelty, some cheating – that was a past. It is not the present; the event has occurred and is over. It caused you the amount of pain and turmoil, yes there is no harm in feeling the pain in showing how hurt or dejected you are. However, is it really worth carrying it along with you every night to your bed, and spoiling your peace of mind, your health, and your family life?  The person, who has done wrong is sleeping peacefully at his home, while you are undergoing anxiety and depression thinking about it. Who gave this power to the negative person or the situation to hijack your sleep and health?

 What good has your resentment, your grudge or holding on to disappointment; rejection, grief and pain served you in life? It isn’t easy to let go, especially when someone has hurt you or cheated on you, but holding on to it will not make you a better person either. You want those negative people and situations to disappear from your life, well you have to learn to let go.  When we let go it is liberating, it is peaceful, and we open ourselves to new faces, new experiences and new relationships. It is hard to let go but that is where our growth happens.  We have a choice in life what to hold on to, and what we need to let go. Letting go is not a sign of weakness, or failure.  When you let go your fear to cross the comfort zone, you are being courageous and opening yourself to new opportunities. When you let go those people who have done wrong against you, you are granting yourself peace, and good health, you refuse to give power to those negative people.

It is perfectly okay to reject evil, but do not feed power to it. Do you remember the story of the Snake & Rope, we heard as small kids? It talks of a man walking home one evening, through the bushes. In the half-light he sees on the path a snake apparently crossing in front of him. He starts and jerks himself away, heart beating fast, wide-eyed and alert. Filled with fear, he is frozen on the street; the night seemed long and terrible, with all scary thoughts and imaginations. He even saw himself being bitten by the snake and his dead body floating around in the streets. He also saw his body being torn to pieces in the jungle by wild animals.  He died a 100 death that night. It was a terrible night. But, as it dawned and the sun rays  pierced through the bushes, he opened his eyes and was shocked to know what scared him to death entire night was just a piece of rope. Relieved and laughing to himself at his foolishness he goes to step over it and glancing down suddenly realizes the rope is a string of jewels. He gasps in awe.

As a kid every time I heard this story, it would make me wonder how foolish this man was to have mistaken a piece of rope to be a snake. But, then today when I look back, I find myself smiling at those situations and people that have terrified me as well, and caused such sleepless nights.  They came for a purpose and were gone, but I prisoned them in my thoughts in my mind. However, the moment I let them go I restored my ability to see clearly.  Evil dissolves when we let the light of compassion, love and knowledge flow in. 

Dont grieve for me

 

 

Don't grieve for me ; For now I am Free

 

Born as a human, I have seen it in all

Love and  Hatred, Gain  and  Pain

Fear, Jealousy, Insecurity – even I had them all

Trial and Error as I grew,

Mistakes  and Blunders all very true

All is well that ends well

Don’t grieve for me, For Now I am free

 

Each day I lived, little better than yesterday

Tried & Failed,

But never failed to try

Don’t grieve for me; for now I am free

 I grew with Ego, Hurt and  Pain stored very high

Was filled with pride to see it there

Always willing to pay back, to those who deserved a share

Don’t grieve for me, for now I am free

 

Days Passed into Years

Youth was gone and a new age dawned

The Hurt the Ego the Pain

 Still holding high

Although deep inside, I knew it was time to bid good bye

Don’t grieve for me, for now I am free

As days passed by, gripped a fear

“What if, today I was to leave everyone dear?”

There was so much to hear, so much to say,

But, what if I never had another day?

Misunderstandings and apologies, never cleared nor said

With a hope to do it some blessed day

But, what if there was just today?

Don’t grieve for me, for now I am free

It has been a mad race all my life,

Fuming and frowning all the while

Storing the hurt, the ego the pain all so high,

Trying to let go, was a task difficult but I was ready to try

How unfair would it be to the ones I loved?

If ever, I was to leave today

 Stories untold

Apologies unsaid

Love unexpressed

Glories unsung

 When I am dead and am gone

Don’t be lost thinking if I really cared

Don’t be lost thinking if I knew I was wrong

Don’t be lost thinking if I had forgotten and forgiven

Mistakes, and errors, fear and suspicion,

All that was fair and unfair

All seemed so unimportant today

Because I realized –What if there was never another day?

Today, I surrender all those memories fond and dear

Joy, and sorrow, hope and fear

Ego, anger, sadness and pain

At this moment all looked vain

I was here to love and be loved

People, circumstances, and memories helped me grow

Don’t be lost thinking, if I still nurtured hate

As I have surrendered it all today, before it is too late

When I am gone and exist no more

Things will never be same as before

When you are happy and want to share your joy

Or when you are sad and want to cry

When you want to hug and tell me –“It is you I need”

I will miss you, and hope I could stay for a while”

But, don’t grieve for me, and hold me back

Don’t grieve for me, for now I am free

Who AM I?

Many sleepless nights with this beautiful quest- Who Am I? Am I what I see myself to be? Or Am I what others see me to be? Am I the one encaged in this body? Or Am I the beautiful wind that blows free…..When life confronts you with these questions- everything else seem meaningless. Am I the pain? Or Am I the witness to this pain? Is birth my beginning or death my end? Or am I beyond all these..?

It is indeed a topsy-turvy life….it is never the same or should I say I am never the same, I am a  loving mother, I am a workaholic employee, I am the carefree woman, I am the innocent child who loves to experiment, who loves to smile and giggle all day round as nothing really is worth worrying. Or should I say am I the entrepreneur boggled down with tension and worry of not just one family but all those who depend on me. Am I the vagabond who would love to live a carefree life? Am I the feminist? Or Am I the  wife who craves for love and care from her family? Am I the sorrow that I experience, or am I the depression that I face? Am I the spiritual seeker? Or am I the fierce and passionate lover? Am I the rude and arrogant self that I sometimes behave to be or am I the very beautiful angelic self that I experience to be. Am I the generous giver? Am I the selfish self-centered seeker who craves for love and attention from the loved ones; who cries and complaints of every small difficulty or problem in life?

Many years passed out living this topsy-turvy life, a moment of happiness that makes life look beautiful, a moment of sadness makes life so very unbearable. Nothing seems to pacify me. Moments of happiness come to end, so do the moments of sadness. Lying on the bed in the darkness of night I rewind the entire span of my life, images, memories, people, experiences, moments of happiness, and moments of despair. Is this what I want to happen when I lay on my death bed?  A deep regret, that years  just passed yet no lessons learnt. I have been put here on this earth for a purpose, what is the purpose of this life school I attended? Is it just to be stuck to the “I Am”? Or move beyond it? How many births? How many life times will this exercise run? Before the darkness ends and the bright morning shines there is a beautiful twilight; and the beautiful verses of Atmashtakam flow ; as they say ask and you will receive. I have heard Atmashtakam many times before, but today each word resonated with deeper meaning.

It is all there so beautifully said….tears flow with realization that I am none of this branding that I carried with myself from childhood; or may be several life times… a life time has been spent running beyond things, running beyond images, running beyond experiences, words spoken hurt many; words unspoken hurt myself what was it joy, sense of accomplishment, trying to push each other down, trying to always be one up- “I Am”.

 What a futile living, will pass away more years and then buried unsung unknown. When everything comes to a standstill…when they bury this body…..what difference would it then make…..who weeps behind me or rejoices my death. Each of us know this truth but yet the drill we practice all through our life is this is ME and this is  what “I Am”, and this drill of " ME" " MINE" "MY" is like a one big jig saw puzzle, we have all the pieces , but yet they are scattered, and  each of us scramble to fit the pieces together, and to our understanding we succeed to  fit these pieces, but yet we fail to notice the minute spaces that were left in between  though many pieces may look alike, may seem alike, still it is not Real.

Here are the beautiful verses of Atmashtakam with its meaning:

Mano buddhya-hankara chittani naham
Na cha shrotra jihve, na cha ghrana netre
Na cha vyoma bhumirna tejo na vayuhu
Chidananda rupah shivoham shivoham. (1) 

I am not the mind, neither the intellect, nor the thought, nor the ego, or some form of the supreme being; I neither have ears, nor tongue and I neither have nose (nostrils) nor eyes; I am not the sky, earth, light or the wind; I am the fortunate, joyful, supreme being who is the very emblem of truth, knowledge and eternal bliss. I am consciousness and bliss. I am Shiva, I am Shiva.  

Na cha prana sangno na vai pancha vayuhu
Na va sapta dhatur na va pancha koshaha
Na vak pani padau na chopastha payoo
Chidananda rupah shivoham shivoham .(2).

I am not the most essential air that everyone breathes. Nor a part of essential five gases related to bodily functions. I am not the seven-fold material  that help in body’s physical development, I am not part of five coverings that help to build up the personality (food, air, mind, knowledge or wisdom and pleasure). Nor am I the five organs of action , I am the fortunate, joyful, supreme being who is the very emblem of truth, knowledge and eternal bliss. I am consciousness and bliss. I am Shiva, I am Shiva.

 

Na me dvesha ragau na me lobha mohau

Mado naiva me naiva matsarya bhavah

Na dharmo na chartho na kamo na mokshah

Chidananda rupah shivoham shivoham .(3).

I have no likes or dislikes; Not I have any greed or delusion; I am neither pride nor arrogance; Nor am I jealous  of anyone or in competition with anyone ; I do not need the four main necessities of life (which are Dharma (Law of Life), Artha (Wealth), Kama (Desires) and Moksha (Liberation); I am the fortunate, joyful, supreme being who is the very emblem of truth, knowledge and eternal bliss. I am consciousness and bliss. I am Shiva, I am Shiva.

 

Na punyam na papam na saukhyam na dukham

Na mantro na tirtham na veda na yagnaha

Aham bhojanam naiva bhojyam na bhokta

Chidananda rupah shivoham shivoham .(4).

I am not attached to any righteousness or sin; I have neither pleasure nor sorrow; I have no need for any Mantra; I have no need for pilgrimages ; I have no need for any sacred scriptures; nor do I perform any sacrifice or rituals; I am neither the meal nor the one who consumes or what is consumed; I am the fortunate, joyful, supreme being who is the very emblem of truth, knowledge and eternal bliss. I am consciousness and bliss. I am Shiva, I am Shiva.

 

Na me mrutyu shanka na me jati bhedah

Pita naiva me naiva mata na janma

Na bandhur na mitram gurur naiva shishyah

Chidananda rupah shivoham shivoham .(5).

 

I have no fear of death, nor do I have caste distinctions; I neither have a father nor mother because I was never born; I have neither kin/relatives nor friends; I have no gurus and nor am I a disciple; I am the fortunate, joyful, supreme being who is the very emblem of truth, knowledge and eternal bliss. I am consciousness and bliss. I am Shiva, I am Shiva.

Aham nirvikalpo nirakara rupo

Vibhur vyapya sarvatra sarvendriyanam

Sada me samatvam na muktir na bandhah

Chidananda rupah shivoham shivoham .(6).

 

I am free of thoughts and beyond imagination since I have no form; I am all-pervading and exist everywhere; I am the king of all sense-organs; I am always impartial to everything and everyone,; I am free from everything and I have no attachment to anything; I am the fortunate, joyful, supreme being who is the very emblem of truth, knowledge and eternal bliss. I am consciousness and bliss. I am Shiva, I am Shiva.

 ATMASTAKAM – Chant of Shiva  

 

 

OM-Matrix of Mantra

 

 

For the past several years, I have been following spiritual practices.  Nothing soothes my body and soul as yoga, meditation and chanting.  I could spend hours reading books and articles on  spiritual practices, also  getting  in and out of meditative state was pretty easy and effortless for me.  While, people usually say meditation is not their cup of tea, my heart races and cries out loud, “I love meditation”. If, ever faced with a choice between attending a very glamorous and happening social party and a simple meditation gathering, I would choose the latter without a second thought.  Although I am in love with spiritual practices, yet I have constantly fallen on and off in my commitment towards incorporating it as part of my daily routine.

There have been weeks and months when my practices would be most punctual, yet some days or weeks it would just drop off from the  “ To do list” .  I would then have a long list of excuses and reasons justifying my act. Despite all this, the love and longing for these spiritual practices have never diminished in my life.

When I look back to the past 2-3 months, I have not done much, except lazing around, a bit of work, a bit of stress, a bit of emotional drama.  And the past few days I have been on a high speed roller coaster of emotions. And each time this happened, I sighed, “Oh how I miss the peace within me!” I was feeling low, depressed, and attracting more negativity in my life. I was actually on the low level of vibration, and everything seemed so difficult, even focusing at work was taking a toll on me.

I somehow gathered myself today, to sit and do some chanting to get out of the low and depressed mood, where everything looked so gloomy and sulky

 When it comes to chanting; “OM” tops my favorite list. Just as people have their juke box loaded with their top 10 favorite music, mine is always uploaded with chants. Chanting and soaking in the vibrations is a beautiful experience. We live in an age where the word “instant” plays a vital role to coax us to try out something new. Hence, for those who have never tried chanting before, I would reiterate, chanting is truly profound; and instantly helps to align our vibrations.

“OM” is a syllable familiar to every Hindu, it is a part of every prayer, and invocation to every god begins with “Om”.  “OM” is Absolute. Om is the matrix of all mantras.

 According to Indian spiritual sciences, God first created sound, and from these sound frequencies, was born our phenomenal world. Our total existence is constituted of these primal sounds.  “Om” is the syllable which preceded the universe and from which the gods were created. It is the mula mantra, the cosmic vibration that holds together the atoms of the world and the heaven.

OM is also pronounced as “Aum”. “Om” is powerful, it is the sound, where everything else disappears- no thoughts, no dreams, no expectations, no joy, no sorrow- it is just silence; deep silence;  it cannot be explained it cannot be heard it cannot be uttered  it can only be experienced.  There is silence yet you can hear it resonating from deep within, it is there within and without, it is all around you.  What could be more beautiful than “Om”?

Om is the secret to sharpen your mind and your intellect. Human mind is powerful it has the power of creation as well as destruction. Have you felt the power of sunrays? When the sun rays spread out everywhere – it is bright, yet when it is focused through lens it can create fire; sun rays can produce solar energy, and much more.   So is our mind, it is everywhere, it has immense power, however to realize the power our mind needs to be focused, it needs to be centered.

Mantra is a tool that helps us to focus, and when the mind gets focused miracles begin to happen. But if we get stuck with the power or the miracles its beauty is lost. Om has the power to fulfill all our desires; it also has the power to free us from all desires. But, then either we run behind the power or magic to fulfill these desires, or we move beyond it. Either we can be stuck with the sound, or we can bask in the silence.

Om changes and realigns our vibrations, several experiments and researches have been conducted to test the effects of Om chanting. Based on such researches even medical experts have come to a conclusion that chanting Om reduces mental stress, cures depression,, improves focus and concentration. It calms the mind and promotes over all wellbeing of the human being.

For me “Om “’ chanting has always been my savior.

 

 

Who is pulling your Strings?

At some point of our life we all have been in relationships where we have felt that others have taken advantage of our simplicity, honesty, politeness; people have benefitted from us physically, emotionally or financially.

 It is quite impossible to find a person who has not been through such  a situation or relationships in life. But what matters is the frequency of these events. When these event are rare, they are easily forgiven and forgotten. Then what happens when such events keep repeating in our lives frequently? They leave us feeling depressed, lethargic,  with painful memories and horrifying stories to share. 

It is very depressing to be in a manipulated relationship, relationships which make you feel like puppets dancing to the tune and music played by others, where your voice and wishes are never heard, where you end up living and sacrificing for building others lives and dream houses.

Such sacrificing partners or relatives  or givers may win "Wow" from the audience,  and  the person living such a life might look   as a "Real Man" or " Real Woman" in the big screen or the  reel world-  but in reality such relationships are known as Toxic relationships- where people take undue advantage of the so called "Nice" person. It looks like the so called " Nice person" is there meant to be exploited and robbed- because he has not learnt to draw boundaries. It is good to be nice, but it is more important to know the difference between being nice and being used, being loved and being exploited, being caring and being submissive to others unhealthy demands .

 

In such relationship the exploiter is not the only one who is to be blamed - but also the one being exploited. Because,  the exploiter knows which button to push or which string to pull but the one being exploited does not want to acknowledge that his string is being pulled by others.

Have you ever met someone who has through his words and actions just induced you to doing things what he wants you to do. Who has a huge fan base, fan- followers? And people just close their eyes follow him without questioning - its what they call faith and trust.

Majority of our so called "spiritual teachers " of today ,  fall in this category. I would not say all of them qualify to be called as manipulator  - because still there are people out in this world who carry out service activities for the betterment and welfare of mankind. But it is very easy to fall prey in name of religion and spirituality in the hands of the "God-men" "Religious Priests" etc when we are lead to believe and do many things out of faith and trust for betterment of our family, or for a  bigger cause.

Many political leaders thrive  resultant of this blind faith. How can we forget someone like "Hitler" or even Saddam Husain- who left the world bewildered by their ruthless behavior, and disregard for the rights and dignity of other human beings,    the only reason they survived was  because  there were people who believed in them and blindly carried out their commands,  totally unaware of the repercussion of the evil being done.

When a husband or wife turns out to be such a manipulator in a married relationship, the other half ends up being exhausted or being used. Their life is spent trying to pacify the needs and wishes of their partner, without any appreciation from the other end. Such a relationship is in rut.

We also come across relationships that are parasitic relationships. Parasitic relationships are those in which one uses the other to get what they want.

The so called " Love relationships" of modern times - where people make friendship or date a girl or a boy just to be noticed in company of someone beautiful, or handsome, to be acceptable in social circle of friends,  to have the privilege of SEX without commitment or marriage, to have some one pay for their shopping bills, telephone bills, or even food bills  are instances of  parasitic relationships.

A new trend found among college students is also making friendship with some one who is very nice and friendly to the opposite sex, not out of love and affection for that person, but with a selfish interest of getting closer to some other person in that group; or rebounding  immediately after a break- up not out of love but  just to make  their  Ex feel jealous.

We also come across parasitic relationships in the  corporate world, in film industry where  relationship are   made to climb up the ladder. It is also a very common scene in lower class families where we find male addicted to alcohol, gambling, and other vices  breed like blood sucking bugs  on the earnings and savings of their mothers; sisters and wife. These men also have a tendency of threatening their partners of moving on to another relationships if their demand for sex, money or alcohol is not fulfilled. It is important to recognize if you are in a parasitic relationship and to learn to say "Stop" before the parasite could destroy the host completely for its own survival.

There are few relationships which are very Dramatic. Extremes of emotions is what rules such relationships. The dramatist resorts to  hitting, abusing his partner , creating  a scene as if the world is ending, but very next hour mellows down and expect his partner to act as if nothing transpired between them.  They force their partners to behave normal-after such outburst of emotions , at times they  threaten them further of committing suicide, cutting their wrists, or killing themselves, if their outburst of emotion is not  accepted as normal  or forgiven by their partner,  These kind of individuals will never understand any kind of justification or reasoning to the partners action. Such relationships survive only on the fear created by the Dramatist- the one who can scream, cry , misbehave loud, and attract attention wins  and forces others to do things exactly he wants to be done. There is   no choice in such relationship but to succumb to the demands of the Dramatist . Many parents, children and spouse  use such emotional dramas to achieve their ends.

 

How much ever we love or care for our parent, child , spouse, or friend it is important to learn to balance, to learn to  say "Enough "  . It is also  important to recognize and acknowledge  such  toxic relationships and put every effort to untangle ourselves  free.

YOU ARE DOING IT WRONG!!!!

According to WHO a suicide is committed every 40 seconds in the world- making it one of the leading cause of death in world. Also, suprisingly it is noticed that this tendency is more in the age group 15-30.

It is indeed painful to lose a beloved one to death-and more painful it is when it comes as  a Suicide. When an  youngster decides to end his life unable to deal with the stress and emotional trauma he is experiencing within himself-it might look upon as an easiest solution to the innumerous problems going on in his life.

Teenage years can be tough and it is perefectly normal to feel sad, low, irritable, lonely,  every now and then. But the problem is when these feeling stay with the teenager for longer period, making them sulk in to their own world. When these feelings become very intense for the teenager to handle- it is important to confide and talk about it, and seek help from an adult because the teenager is undergoing depression. The very young mind is not able to assess what is going on within him and decides to find a permanent solution to the temporary problems . It is also the duty of the parent to keep an open eye and observe their kids closely to know if there are any changes in the life of their teens. Most important is to develop a realtionship of trust and understanding, so the teen could talk freely about his problem without fear of being laughed upon, or rebuked. Teenage years are filled with lot of problems like infatution, one sided love stories, bullying, peer victimisation, feeling of being useless, worthless, not feeling good about ones physical appearance, personality, and much more.

 Rather than judging your teenager and making him feel low about himself and his feelings try to understand his world and help him emerge out as a stronger human being. Many teenagers get so cosumed with their emotions, it starts affecting their accademic performance. This leads to lot of pressure from school as well as parents imposing their expectations on the teenager, and pushing them in to further depressive feelings when they are not able to meet up to the expectations of their parents or teacher. The depressive mind constantly sends out signals of being worthless.

 

 

When an youngster decides to end his life abruptly he thinks he is doing it right, because he has not confided in anyone who could make him see that the path chosen by him  to solve his problems is wrong . 

His love for his family or his friends has not reduced, but somewhere he feels weak, he feels lonely, he feels he can not carry it any longer, he does not want to be a cause of shame for his teachers, his family or his friends. He loves his parents too much, and does not want to share his problems and make them more sad or disheartened. He does not have the courage to tell them he will not be able to fulfil their dreams of seeing him as  a Doctor, Engineer, Chartered Accountant, because his dreams are different. He finds it very difficult to  confide in his teacher that he is not interested in the Science classes being offered at the college but he is passionate about pursuing music, dance, art. He does not want to hurt his friends by admitting  that he feels low and depressive when they joke about his physical appearance or his personality. He tries to show his parents he is unaffected  when they constantly fight at home and threaten each other of seperation. He tries to find solace in substance abuse; and rebounds quickly in to  another physical relationship after a break up  . There could be a lot more than can be seen or felt going on in the mind of the teenager. With so much exposure and influences flowing in to his life, with so much of conflicts going on within him, he tries to put up a brave front; tries to be a rebellion, tries to imitate others to be socially accepted amidst his peer group,  but somewhere within  he is also seeking  a shoulder which could comfort him and tell him that this phase would pass off soon.

 

Being human is an emotional experience - we all go through different phases of life ; good days; bad days; emotional days; depressing days; happy days; challenging days- but learning to deal with them is a skill which comes with age, maturity, experience. However strong or matured we might consider ourselves as teens - yet we need a support system to help us and guide us , to help us deal with our emotions and feelings.

So whenever you are undergoing any kind of stress or problems as a teenager as an yougnster- please reach out to some one out there who is ready to listen to you, who is ready to help you out because although your parents and teachers might seem tough, might have set  very high expectations from you, yet they value you more than any other thing.

 

You are the most precious relationship in this world . Do not decide to leave this world with a note which would leave all your relations traumatised that you never gave them a chance to express that  it is not your grades, not your achievements, nor their ego which is really precious and valuable to them- but it is " You". 

I AM STILL HOT! IT JUST COMES IN FLASHES NOW!!

 

 

 

Funny is it ? But that's what happens to most  ladies when they hit  Mid 40's- Perimenopause -four to Seven or even 10 years leading up to menopause - is a time of wildly fluctuating hormone level - a journey towards discovering the "Bitchy you" or  a "Newer Version " of yourself -some one whom you have never met before.

 

Perimenopause can be aptly described as a time of crazy-hormone triggered mood swings, eratic periods, insomnia, weight gain, thinning hair, decreased libido, hot flashes or flushes - you never know when something might just offend you and turn you in to a "Drama Queen".  For some these mood swings may start in late 30's and then you may think- ME? Am too young for menopause?

 

 

 

 Well only a proper consultation with your doctor and tests will reveal if you are actually undergoing perimenopause or the so called transition to menopause?

 

But the good news is Perimenopause is not necessarily as dreadful as is described, it could be beginning of your spiritual journey. Rather than focussing more on what is happening and why it is happening it would help in a better way to focus on what you want from life?

Adapt few changes in your life style, go slow, give all the time you need to devote to yourself to make you feel better. Add light exercise routine; aerobics, as well weight training to your routine- it will help you prevent bone loss, and also avoid stiffness in body.

 

Practise deep relaxation and meditation as much as possible  it helps to wipe out the unwanted stress and drama created by hormones. Aligning with highest, having time for quite, reflection, prayer and meditation helps to bring in the required balance in life.

 

 Listen to your body, listen to your mind, listen to everything that goes within you, it is a time to connect more deeply with the feminine power within you- because perimenopause is not just a set of those drastics shifts and physcial changes described by most women- it can be a magical journey to personal growth and  transformation. It could be fulfilling experience to discover the purpose of our being in this planet. Just let yourself flow with it and embrace the best years of life.